was chatting with mark online and it led to this.
[mark]but really la. if feelings were that simple we wouldn't be having so many divorces and breakups in this world..
[me]i hate break-ups but the world already knows i hates that. ha
but it's a fact of life
there is no happiness without sadness
they come together
i want happiness without sadness.
seriously emotions are man-made right.
we can control them.
then we can actually dictate sadness or happiness.
why dont pple just dictate happiness?
you may dictate happiness, but how would you define happiness then?
how would you know if what you feel is really happiness.. and even then how happy you really are?
i dont know. do u want ans from me?
i cant think at this moment now.
defination of happiness varies amongst individuals. it's just a general qn anyway.
oh well. it depends on personal expectations.
nah, i mean, just food for thought
if im someone who is satisfied n content with simple things. like someone calls me once a day to say hi. wish me a good day. i will be happy as a lark.?
but if im more demanding. then i will expect more than one call per day?
happiness is when u dont question the happiness. so why should i even bother if what i really feel is happiness. if i have to bother abt the legitimacy of my happiness. then that would be a sad moment. sad that i actually have to wonder why i actually or if im really happy ..because im thinkin that there are things i shld be feelin sad rather than happy abt.
makes sense right.
why should happiness have diffent gauges anyway?
doesnt that complicate the whole notion of happiness?
ok. perhaps if i want to up the notch of my happiness. i will use the word euphoric?
n anyway. i wont expect happiness to be derived from the same stuffs. i would like to think there are many things that actually make me happy. so there cant be comparisons. since the basis for happiness will be different on every occasion. so am i suppsoed to know how much happier i feel this time compared to that time?
i guess, if you have really simple hopes and desires, the issue of happiness isn't really big
so in conclusion. if we just want to be happier. we should have simpler desires n hopes. lower our expectations.
but again that's not true.
haha
if only it's that simple, again
because this is not a mathematical equation. whereby u just times both sides to make them equal or that the numbers get bigger, so the value increases. nah. doesnt work this way.
n its not an inverse equation too. hah. lower expctations. happier. higher expectations. not that happy. hmm.
haha...
it's as you said.
who is to say that happiness derived from simple things cant measure up to happiness derived from complications. ? n vice versa.
you're right in that statement..
the simple pleasures of life is one of the easier happiness to obtain..
but greater satisfaction may be attained by a 'complicated' pleasure as well
it's all in the eye of the beholder.
the truth is, happiness eludes me.
as i was telling someone prior to this, it's been really long since i dont pause to wonder and reflect about the state of happiness i find myself in at times.